Before we can cultivate 'safe' relationships, we have to know what that even looks like.
Being 'safe' means being free from harm and risk. Think on that for a moment. We feel safe when we lock our doors, wear seatbelts, wear the correct gear on our adventures and stay within our boundaries. We keep our valuables in a safe. When the base runner touches homeplate without being tagged, he is safe.
As noted, each of these instances allow us to experience freedom from harm or risk, at least it is the best 'we' can do. Accidents can still happen when we wear our seatbelts or protective gear; however, if something were to happen and we and those we hold dear are protected to the best of our ability, we may experience less regret or trauma, especially if the unthinkable happens.
What is a 'safe' person, you may ask. Great question. I have a very succinct and accurate definition of what I believe describes someone who is a safe person.
"A safe person is someone who does not put you on edge".
Although, a simple definition, I want to break this down into a more definitive description because I believe when it comes to relationships, our emotions can play a huge part in the people we 'choose' to be in relationship with.
So, let me add a dose of logic.
Safe People help us to grow and become better people. Here are some ways they add value to our lives;
*They listen to us.
*They are relatable, not attempting to be perfect or trying to control or fix us.
*They are reliable to follow through on their promises when they say they will do something or be somewhere.
*They accept us without judgment.
*They manage their emotions.
*We can be ourselves around them.
*We are able to trust them.
*They treat themselves and others well.
We cannot very well understand what a safe relationship might look like unless we are aware of what we are facing if we deal with 'unsafe' relationships.
Unsafe people can often be characterized as those who abandon us when they aren't comfortable with what we are saying or facing. They can be critical, speaking truth without love or not willing to offer grace or forgiveness.
Some unsafe people are simply irresponsible, and make excuses rather than necessary changes. They blame others and aren't willing to own their actions or mistakes. They may borrow and not repay. They add more stress and chaos than joy in our relationships.
Some unsafe people may be caring and fun. However, their lack of dependability or responsibility can be a source of irritation if they are continually late or neglectful in meeting us at restaurants or important events or in paying back money we may loan them. They may mean well but don't make the effort to communicate in a timely manner or follow through what they say they will do.
If we continue to allow these behaviors in important relationships without addressing them, we can grow to resent them. They may not necessarily be mean or hurtful toward us, just careless. Continuing to enable these unsafe patterns can be harmful to the relationship.
God's Word teaches us that others will know we are followers of Jesus by our love for Him and for them. We can better demonstrate our love for others when the close relationships that support us are with safe people.
Safe relationships offer us the comfort of being supported by folks who will take responsibility for doing the hard work in life which at times can be difficult.
If I were to step outside when it's raining and slip and fall, it would not be my fault. However, I would have to be the one to take the initiative to see a doctor, possibly face surgery, go to physical therapy and rest so my body can heal. This would be the hard work needed to restore health to my body.
Or the other option I could choose if I were an unsafe person, would be to not be pro-active in taking action for what my body may need to heal.
I could stay angry, stuck and bitter for a long time. I could blame others for the situation.
God caused it to rain. The contractor who designed my driveway was incompetent. Yada yada yada...
I could hold onto what happened to me with a vengeance as though I am a victim. I could continually complain and ruminate over it to anyone who cared enough to listen for as long as I could get away with it. I could wear my pain like a badge.
A lot of what separates safe and unsafe people is the willingness or lack thereof, to own their lives and the fact that sometimes difficult things happen. Not everything that happens is caused by someone else's negligence. And God can work it all together for good if we allow Him to. Even if it's a hard thing.
Another thing that can differentiate between a safe or unsafe person is the willingness to always be truthful. Period. No excuses.
Regardless of where we are in life and where we've been, we can move ourselves toward being more of a safe person by taking responsibility to do the things that we need to do to manage our lives well.
My grandmother often said that anytime I was pointing at someone else (as the problem), I have three fingers pointing back at me. (Make a fist and then point with your index finger... your middle finger, ring finger and pinky are all pointing back at you).
If I am to live my best life, it must begin with me accepting what I cannot change, changing whatever I can... and leaning on God to learn the difference.
One of the great things about finding supportive, safe relationships is that safe people actually have a better capacity and desire to connect and have close relationships. That's not always true for those who are not safe.
You are likely to receive true compassion and empathy from safe people. As well as experiencing them being willing to act on their compassion, as opposed to just talking about it. Or being showy about it.
Safe people will show up for us, keep our secrets, pray with us, apologize when they've hurt us and mean it, forgive us, be a positive influence, not flatter us, always tell us what we need to hear, and be someone we can rely on to be consistent as opposed to unstable.
One of the best gifts you will ever give yourself is to find and become a safe person. We do become like those we associate with.
I'm not saying we are to give up every relationship we have unless these people fit the bill that I've described. However, there is a snowball effect of becoming a safe person. When we surround ourselves with people who live out the principles of God's Word, eventually we become safe(r) people as well.
That being said, we can then positively influence all of our relationships by being safe for them to learn and grow. We do this by being open to feedback and not defensive. We cease faking fine and admit our weaknesses.
We are able to be spiritual instead of religious when we deal with our issues rather than refuse to take responsibility for them. With the right relationships in our lives, we learn humility and the ability to change things that we need to change.
As we gain more safety, we will be one that others can trust.
If you desire to learn more about Safe People, here are a few things to consider. Find a friend and a support group of individuals who want the same thing. There is a great book, "Safe People" by Christian Psychologists, Henry Cloud & John Townsend that will give you a birdsye view of what it's all about. And finally, face your fear of doing hard things.
One of the ways you can learn more about safe people, setting healthy boundaries and creating joy-filled relationships is to join me live every Tuesday at 12 noon EDT on the Joy-Filled Relationships Mastermind Group for women. You can register here to receive the link and access to an online portal that allows you to view each week's replay: joyfilledrelationships.com/mastermind.
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How often do we neglect developing new habits because we think a positive outcome will take too much effort? Or maybe we start to improve our life or relationships only to give up prematurely because we don’t get the desired outcome we want fast enough.
It’s easy to allow today’s challenges to become tomorrow’s excuses.
Have you wondered how you became a member of the Start-Big-Finish-Small-if-at-All-Club? Perhaps, you’ve set your target for needed improvements that are difficult to reach.
Often, the pain of disappointment can leave us feeling burned out with little desire to follow through. Remember, we do have options.
The breakthrough we need may be to practice thinking small to help transform our life and relationships. By thinking small, consider that all of our 'good' ideas can be channeled through a funnel, however, what is added at the wide end of the funnel is much larger than what makes it through the narrow end of it.
Once we consider our options, it will become obvious that some things clearly will not be ideal. Let's focus on the ones that may be doable. Eventually, we will be able to narrow them down to what will actually move us closer to the end result we desire.
Most everything works out for the best, if we are willing to make the best out of the way things work out. (Say that fast three times!) It sounds cliche' however, there is a lot of truth in the fact that accepting what we cannot change releases us from feeling 'stuck'.
Often, we may be full of ideas and eager to establish a new plan of action when we have finally gotten to the point that we will admit that something needs to change.
If our ideals become our only options, we may soon realize it’s easy to bite off more than we can chew. We want rapid success and no hitches.
The size of the task and the time it takes to get there may make it tempting to throw in the towel. By focusing on the here and now, it is easier to find a steady pace. Besides, slow and steady worked for the tortoise!
And, how do you eat an elephant? One. Bite. At. A. Time.
Whatever you hope to gain in your endeavors, it's imperative to decide precisely what it is you want, and be specific as you define what exactly it is you hope to achieve. If we aim at nothing, we will hit it every time.
Reflect on why you desire this outcome. If you've been tracking with me for any time at all, you know that I am a dyed-in-the-wool fan of journaling. So I can say that I believe that dreams and goals are often more “real” if they are written.
Decide what is a reasonable length of time to realize your desire and be realistic. Make it measurable so you will have a target at which to aim. Once you have a clearly defined idea of the what, why and how long to reach the outcome we are hoping for, we can break down the entire process.
Here are a few tips for breaking it down into bite-size pieces:
1. Brainstorm all of your options and determine what is doable. Then consider how the ones you have chosen can be divided into smaller, detailed steps. Each task is a stepping stone towards achieving your end result.
2. Simplify the action plan. Think of the steps as actions. When you understand what actions are needed to achieve your desired result, you can pull these together into a plan.
3. Establish daily and weekly tasks. When you create your action plan, work out a series of targets that you believe are possible to reach on the way to your goal. Keep it simple with many small victories to keep the momentum.
4. Keep on track. The small-scale approach is flexible and allows for instant changes. Continue tweaking and completing the simple tasks so the end result will be well within your grasp.
5. Focus on your daily actions plans and not so much on the end date. Like the tortoise, concentrate on one small step and repeat consistently.
6. Master the art of delaying gratification. Though you may be tempted, avoid trying to rush things and bite off more than you can chew. Refer to the reasons why you want the desired goal. Concentrate on where you are in the journey, and not on what’s next. Reflect on how far you’ve come and what a waste it would be to throw in the towel.
7. Be gentle with yourself and you move through unchartered territory. Often, the best things for us are new and challenging. Celebrate every single win! It's hard work... but God created us to be able to do hard things!
In order for us to grow, we will need to allow ourselves to be stretched at times.
In most endeavors, if we don’t grow, our plans and goals won’t either.
Long-lasting lifestyle change requires an investment of our time and effort, as well as some patience. The road to achieving great things is much less intimidating when you break down the end result into smaller steps.
And absolutely nothing can compare to how you will feel when you finally make it to the place you wanted to be.
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Until next time....
-Sheri xo
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Life balance is often misunderstood. Many people think it simply means that we just need to juggle our plates and successfully keep them all up in the air.
This would perhaps be in a perfect world.
But balance doesn’t mean perfection.
Balance is more about level — in accounting, things must add up. In physics, what goes up, must come down.
In life, we don’t want to live like a gazelle being chased by a cheetah all the time — we’d be in a code red, high adrenaline, super stress world. Possibly a heart attack or stroke waiting for a place to happen.
Balance is more about a calm and stable default setting that allows us to make decisions based on personal values.
This level of calm assists us in being assertive and confident in setting healthy limits (personal boundaries) in life and work situations.
Which, in turn allows us to enjoy our time for rest and relaxation.
It also aids us in not constantly carrying around mental homework in an effort to to work out all the unknowns in our world.
Balance means that we are more likely to be intentional in the moment ~ and possibly more aware of the moments that take our breath away.
As opposed to running around wondering if all the work and worry is reducing the number of breaths we have left to take.
As we struggle with these kinds of issues, it often helps reveal to us what we truly want and need when we are seeking “life balance”.
It is the calmness and security of being able to manage the things we treasure, i.e. our feelings, thoughts, talents, attitudes, behavior, personal well-being, etc. so in effect, we are able to pro-actively confront our issues in life without a perpetual feeling of being overwhelmed.
For me, it’s about owning my life and choosing who and what to allow into it. This has made what is most important in my life — my relationships — more peaceful, loving and respectful.
I don’t want to stress over things I’m unable to change. I need the energy for the times when I do have stress … or, for the adventure I want to jump into with both feet!
One thing I know I cannot change is others' and how they do life.
And how do I want my life to be different today and everyday?
I want to intentionally make an effort to live, eat, write, think, work, and focus from a mindset that I personally choose. Not one that I land in every time the unexpected happens.
It means I have to consciously rework my default settings. And to avoid the negative patterns that reoccur when I am not doing life based on what I value most.
My desire is to have a default setting that is a calm, safe and secure in the knowledge that God will always provide the strength I need day-by-day to manage the life He has given to me.
When my adrenaline rushes (the extreme) come in, I want to be aware when I am tempted to allow more in my life that I am able to manage.
God will always provide the time, resources, support and accountability for all He has for me.
My job is to routinely take the initiative to renew my mind with His truth and love, being strengthened by the relationships I have with those that support and encourage me, as well as the ones that have permission to hold me accountable to do what I say and finish what I start.
My life keeps getting better. Not because of more money or more stuff – but mostly because of more awareness around the true balance I have tapped into by learning that every day holds challenges and successes ~ and that truly what I look for is what I will find, be it bad or good.
As for me, I want to make the choice each day to live with the mantra, that indeed, 'Life is Good'.
After all, I’ve got the tee shirt; that should prove it!
At times, I can laugh at how busy I used to be. I was serious about my ability to be polished in every area. I could be an excellent wife, be a good mom to my three girls, manage my home, organize finances, volunteer when anyone asked, cook, clean etc.
I could do it all, and then some. At least that is what I would tell myself.
I thought that was the path to peace. All I needed to do was keep all those plates in the air.
Everyone was doing it all, so I wanted to look as good as everyone else.
As a young stay-at-home mom, I had an extra drive to prove myself because, 'they' were watching to see if I could accomplish this feat. (I still ask myself, "Who are 'They?'")
I was convinced that more was required. Meals had to be from scratch. I had to use cloth diapers. No shortcuts!
I didn’t want to do it all. Doing it all made me exhausted. Doing it all cost me relationships with those that mattered most to me.
It was great. Until it wasn't. Until I realized it was not true at all.
Until I purposefully left the life of chronic busyness, I couldn’t see how futile it really was.
Doing it all caused me stress, loss of sleep and anger when my world was out of my control.
My busyness was less productive and more chaotic that I would ever admit to.
After all of the disappointment and a few good doses of reality, I made the decision that a overly busy life wasn’t a life for me.
Being a good person, loving wife, mother and friend…that was the life I wanted.
Next to that, I wanted the freedom to do things that I was passionate about instead of things that weighed heavy on me because they mostly felt like obligations. Certainly not something I could be cheerful about.
Becoming less busy is not an accident, but a decision we need to make intentionally.
My epiphany came when I realized that busyness did not necessarily equate to fruitfulness.
The snare of busyness is that sometimes you can be so busy, you don’t recognize you might be in trouble.
You can become so overwhelmed that you can’t figure out how to change.
You can get so used to being busy that you create more work to organize your life so you can be even busier with the hopes of accomplishing more.
And, for what? I was miserable and yet trying to create more misery. A catch-22.
You may be caught up in the busyness trap, if…
* You respond to “how are you?” with “crazy busy” or “busy but good”
* You spend time worrying about how busy you are going to be tomorrow
* You get angry when your spouse or others who aren’t as busy as you
* You are up at night thinking about everything you didn’t get done
* You let people know how late you stay at work or how much you get done
* You zone out during conversations thinking about all you have to do
* You volunteer for things you don’t care about
* You spend time complaining about how overwhelmed you feel
* You make list after list to make sure you don’t forget anything
* You regularly eat in your car or on the go
* You use your phone in the car because “it’s the only time you have to talk”
If you are anything like I was, you may be busy because you simply don’t know how to be un-busy.
You may be busy out of misdirected guilt because you think if you do enough, you will be enough.
When you decide that it is acceptable to live life your way, you can stop being busy and start doing things that matter.
You can talk about your meaningful day instead of ranting about your busy schedule.
Decide today that you are enough, even if you never do anything, accomplish anything or produce anything ever again.
You are enough.
How to be less busy...
* Be unproductive on purpose
* Limit the times you check email each day
* Delete and toss email that you don’t need to read
* Set your phone to silent and turn your computer off when you aren’t working
* Turn everything off in the car (except the car)
* Put your iPad down
* When you help someone, let it be from love, not obligation
* Do less, be more
* Stop trying to keep up, measure up or catch up
While you may think that you are making sacrifices for others by being busy, you are likely sacrificing the same relationships you think you are saving.
Get real and consider what is most important to you. Then do that first. The rest will wait.
Practice guarding your life from the thief of busyness…
Until next time....
-Sheri xo
***If over-commitment is an ongoing concern in your life, consider establishing some healthy personal boundaries for yourself. The only thing you have to lose is a default setting that really may not be serving you well.
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I have conversations with many women who have experienced lives with a lot of cool happenings. They are from all walks of life and all kinds of backgrounds. They are from all education levels as well as from all levels of what the world may measure as 'success'.
One of the things that seems to be present in most every deep conversation that I have with anyone is the heart's cry for the desire to have a feeling of “worthiness” or “appreciation” or “validation”.
I hear successful, seasoned, articulate, people, appearing almost child-like, expressing a single hope … to feel that they are valued by someone or some organization or team that they hold in high regard. In essence, they echo a very strong desire that is present in many of us … How can I cultivate feelings of self-worth or value from those that I 'need' to validate me so that I can know that I am okay?
The thing I am beginning to see is that contrary to our first initial response to this idea in our minds, self-esteem or self-worth does not come from someone else to us.
It comes from the inside out. It is part of a transformation process whereby we learn to not listen to the internal critic we have that tells us how and where we are lacking. The negative and hurtful voice that reminds us of every failure and each time we have missed 'the' mark.
To counteract this unwelcome conversation, we can remind ourselves of the value God has placed on us.
If it's not entirely clear to you how big of a sacrifice God made for us in giving His Son to trade places with us by taking on our sin so that we might gain His righteousness, ask yourself who would you be willing to give up your child for.... especially, if they didn't even show signs of wanting or needing your sacrifice.
The Creator of the Universe decided that you and I were important enough for Him to give the greatest gift.
With this understanding, I can get behind the idea that there must be something in my life that holds value and a special place for God, since He gave it all for me and for you!
Self-esteem in it’s most simplest definition is … doing the next basic right thing that God shows us … even if we do not ‘feel’ like it. This is turn, gives us a sense of well-being, security and not one of being dependent on someone else's approval.
When we do a super job on something, and we all do this at times, we truly know deep down, that it was a fabulous effort and success on our part and it lifts us up. Even if no one else noticed or complimented us. We just know.
That's how understanding our value and the truth that 'We are Enough' is reflected back through us. It is from the inside out. It is a gentle knowing that we stepped up to the plate, gave it our all and it worked!
We are dependent on God alone to lead us by His Word, His Spirit and the godly wisdom of those who live in accordance with His Will that He places in our lives.
You may be thinking, that sounds pretty simple.
The concept is simple, the training and reprogramming of our minds to receive or act on this revelation is limited only by one thing … our rejection of the idea that building our self-esteem is dependent solely on the choices we make.
Especially, since when it comes to our choices and decisions, the moment of 'perfect' certainty NEVER comes. Yet, hindsight is 20/20.
A little good news. God can uses our less-than-stellar and bad choices just as easily as He can use our good ones.
Oh, it's not as easy for us... but this can be the sandpaper that He uses to shape our character and smooth out the future of our journeys.
We have, for far too long, marinated on the idea that we need the approval and acceptance of others to feel whole.
So, here’s the good news and the bad news … YOU are in the driver’s seat of your own feelings of self-worth.
Whether we feel competent or able to build personal self-esteem, we can do it. Move confidently in the knowledge that YOU are a unique and gifted individual, loved by a Perfect and Holy God who ONLY wants what is best for you.
Each of us are created in God’s image and according to His design. What we do with what He has given us to work with is best determined by surrendering all of the hopeless feelings that come from depending on anyone else, but God, to make us feel a particular way … um better.
By surrender, I'm not talking about our initial decision to follow Christ as much as our decision to allow Him to conform our will to His. This process comes after we have accepted His gift of salvation.
When I finally began to understand that surrendering to His ways (by recognizing that my ways can be pretty costly at times), I learned that His sanctification process (that's the part where He's making us like Jesus), is actually quite easy to understand (not an easy path, but definitely a clear path).
He wants us to trust Him. He wants us to place our faith in His ability to work all things together for our good.
We can't do that while still holding the reins.
As I began to step fully into surrender (not a once-and-done thing... this is where we take up our cross and die daily to ourselves), I found that the answer to most of the major decisions and choices in my life have been made for me by God. And, as/if I wait on Him, He truly makes them abundantly clear at the right time.
We, as navigators of our own little universe, often find it hard to simply, wait. We would rather do just about anything else!
We often tell ourselves that time is 'a wastin' while we are waiting.
A little more good news. The Holy Spirit leads, but the devil drives. (Guess who always wants us to hurry on to the next thing!)
Think about how God creates. He made the heavens and the earth in 6 days (not here to argue whether it is a literal six days), but He's been working on heaven for 6000+ years. Can you imagine how awesome it must/will be?
That will make living down here about the same as living in a trash can.... so if God is perfect and He is waiting for the right time, why should we try to hurry through our 70-80-90 years?
When having a down day … instead of sitting around feeling down about all the things that cannot be changed, do the next basic right thing in your world … consider the things that can be changed and get to it.. at a pace that doesn't overwhelm you. It's not a sprint; it's a marathon.
Wash the car, walk the dog, clean the closet, pray, reach out to encourage someone else that is going through something that is obviously more difficult than the “down” day you are experiencing.
When you get up, show up and do the next basic right thing, you will be completely amazed at how it transforms feelings of unworthiness or hopelessness into positive ideas that provide the necessary emotional fuel (stamina) we need to truly understand our value.
The Bible teaches us to think (consider, meditate) on the things that are good, lovely and of a good report.
God has put within each of us, a tiny little voice that whispers, “this is the way to go or the thing to do…" So, we have the option to go confidently in that direction.
It's not nearly as important how people respond and react to you as it is how to respond to His still, quiet whispers. It is in quietness, that you will find your strength and your confidence to move in the direction He is leading.
Our feelings may appear to be insurmountable walls, but they are in reality, nothing more than perceived blockades that keep us from what we truly long for.
No other person can build us in a way that is sustainable. God has designed us and has great purpose for us. The greatest enemy we have at times is our own passivity.
Passivity, being the inability or unwillingness, to ‘push against’ the inhibiting thoughts and feelings that limit us and keep us from experiencing the simple joys and pleasures of each day we are given.
For each of us, there is a sweet spot of daily living and it is the same rhythm that leads us to maturity. It is simply choosing to do the right thing, regardless of how we feel about it.
What we think or focus on will impact what we believe. What we believe is what we will do and how we will live.
So, the question in any given situation becomes, What am I able to do in this situation?
Relinquish what you cannot change and you will become all you are meant to be.
And, by all means, e l i m i n a t e – every excuse for not doing all that you are able to do … to envision in your own mind, the YOU that God sees!
The greatest impact you will have is the life you will live out with those in your circle of influence.
It isn't rocket science; it's intentional living...
And the answer is....
Yes, You are Enough!!
Until next time....
-Sheri xo
Sheri Geyer is a Boundaries Coach for Women
Are YOU Ready to create Joy-Filled ❤️Relationships.... even when it's hard? If so, we need to talk!
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